Balance

For 99 percent of people the goal should be sustainability and balance. Losing weight is not the goal. Getting healthier is not the goal. Making more money is not the goal. These are the things that emerge when a sustainable and balanced life are achieved, but they are not the goals. 

Find the spots in your life that are out of balance, out of alignment, and focus on achieving homeostasis in those areas. Fix your sleep. Give up sweet treats with added sugar. Complete a project you’ve been putting off. Go visit that friend or family member you’ve been threatening to go see. Make yourself a delicious meal, and then do it again, and again. Get rid of something that makes you miserable. Like answering emails between 6 pm and 6 am. End a relationship that only serves the other person, and only brings you a black cloud. 

Find the points of imbalance and slowly, methodically, and intentionally, correct them over time, and eventually your weight, relationships, health, finances, and overall happiness will improve. Anticipate and be ready for setbacks, and don’t let them discourage you. Realize that they are part of the process, that old habits die hard, and new ones take time to develop. Every setback should be acknowledged as progress. It means you’re pushing up against something hard and it’s pushing back. 

It’s not going to give in so easily, but neither are you. You’re moving towards balance, and a life of stability.